Having trouble dating

Even if you’ve been burned repeatedly or have a poor track record when it comes to dating, these tips can help you to keep things in perspective and put you on the path to finding a loving relationship that lasts.

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Remember that first impressions aren't always reliable, especially when it comes to Internet dating.

It always takes time to really get to know a person and you have to experience being with someone in a variety of situations.

Myth: I didn’t feel close to my parents, so intimacy is always going to be uncomfortable for me.

Fact: It’s never too late to change any pattern of behavior.

Instant sexual attraction and lasting love do not necessarily go hand-in-hand.

Emotions can change and deepen over time, and friends sometimes become lovers—if you give those relationships a chance to develop. Fact: Women and men feel similar things but sometimes express their feelings differently, often according to society’s conventions.

These are probably not the things you can find out about a person by eyeing them on the street, reading their profile on a dating site, or sharing a quick cocktail at a bar before last call.

Don’t make your search for a relationship the center of your life.

When we start looking for a long-term partner or enter into a romantic relationship, many of us do so with a predetermined set of (often unrealistic) expectations—such as how the person should look and behave, how the relationship should progress, and the roles each partner should fulfill.

These expectations may be based on your family history, influence of your peer group, your past experiences, or even ideals portrayed in movies and TV shows. Wants include things like occupation, intellect, and physical attributes such as height, weight, and hair color.

But both men and women experience the same core emotions such as sadness, anger, fear, and joy. Fact: Love is rarely static, but that doesn’t mean love or physical attraction is doomed to fade over time.

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