Dating baseball metaphor
Yet we mostly let boys figure out sex (and dating) for themselves, based on what they see in the media, hear from friends and siblings, and experience in person.Information from adult authority figures like parents and teachers is infrequent and minimal.
Parents lavished affection on children and sought to help them flourish by discovering and developing their interests.
The proliferation of advice literature about the new “emotional” family offers evidence of their commitment to this project.
Similarly, the number of folks a guy has kissed might be important in middle school, but it’s probably not something he’s focused on during high school. By the time they hit the big leagues, typically between 18 and 22, they’ve literally spent years on the playing field, with more years spent training and practicing.
They’ve had coaches and trainers to help them improve their skills.
It doesn’t really matter if your team hits a bunch of singles or a bunch of home runs, as long as you score more runs than your opponent.
That’s true for the metaphor too; it doesn’t say anything about how any of those experiences feel or what they mean to the guy. Yet most of us remember our first kiss and first sex, and I’d like to think that most people place real value on the quality of the sex their having and not just the total number of orgasms they’ve had. Yes, there are separate stats for those things, but almost every player will tell you that those individual stats don’t mean much if the team isn’t winning. We all understand that professional athletes have spent lots of time honing their skills, even if we don’t think about it very much.
For boys who have sex with boys, about 85% follow the expected path, with 15% on a different path.
Boys on the non-traditional path include a few who had their first sex before their first kiss; I like to think of them as following Vivian’s (Julia Roberts) claim in Pretty Woman: kissing is too intimate to do with someone who’s just a f—. In baseball, the only thing that’s important is the final score.
The sex=baseball metaphor had one incredible thing going for it: virtually everyone understood the references.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating