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I never attributed tenets as simple as honoring and respecting elders, especially parents, to my ethnic upbringing.The Parental Influence Like many Chinese parents, mine only expected the best – the best grades, the best schools, the best jobs, and the best husband who shared those same qualities.As an Asian American woman, sometimes I too fall into the trap of labeling Asian men as passive.

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Chinese international students can work in the United States using a student visa (F-1) during the optional practical training (OPT) of 12 to 29 months.

Afterwards, they have to find a company that will provide them with a working visa (H1-B) to work legally in the US.

Even as a Chinese American, she still has limited interaction with Chinese students. "Maybe they still feel: 'I am different, even though my Mandarin is not bad'. Chinese students are shy, but in the United States, if you don't speak out, we won't help you." Dating culture in the US is different from China, said Zhao Qinghua, founder of 2Red Beans, a dating website for Chinese living in the US.

"Dating withmultiple men/women concurrently is unacceptable," Zhao said.

Just like my parents, financial stability and a respectable career are basic prerequisites that seem to unconsciously take precedence over many other traits in younger generations.

Stereotypes Parental concerns aren’t the only factors that influence relationships, but stereotypes brought on by the American media also fall into play.

Over time, I have learned that the best approach is to shed those misconceptions and instead focus on the person in front of me.

Chinese Dating In any kind of culture, commonality often makes dating easier.

As a first generation Chinese American, I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area, a major hub for multitudes of Asians and Asian Americans.

I had always understood certain facets of everyday life as norms since most of my peers were like me and grew up in households like mine.

There were 300,000 students from China studying in the US in the 2013/14 school year, but the population pool still seems too small for romance.

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