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When Ivy*, a 35-year-old activist, lived in New York, her relationships never seemed to work out.
If she did end up in a monogamous relationship, the same thing would happen when she hit the six- or eight-month mark: she'd cheat. There she met a man at a conference who was "super polyamorous," she says.
Her new partner's version of "super polyamory" was different from the secretive multiple-partner dating she'd been doing back in New York: this was all out in the open, with lots of discussions about boundaries and agreements; what was okay between them, and what was not.
"It was very clear what the hierarchy was, but he called us both his 'girlfriends,'" she says.
The expiration date on this experiment was crucial: "I didn't want to be obsessing every day whether it worked for me, because that's a recipe for unhappiness." At the end of the six months, she'd assess.
The threesome eventually split up—the duo wanted to return to a monogamous arrangement—but she's still close with them both, and she's still nonmonogamous. "I'm planning on coming out of the poly closet," she says.
"I just haven't yet." Sunday Styles section published a story about the open marriage of the actress Mo'Nique and her husband Sidney Hicks that created such reader interest that, two days later, the paper ran a comment-filled companion piece online.
So who are the mysterious people these nonmonogamous couples are sleeping with?
What would it mean to be in someone else's open relationship as a single woman?
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